About Father Laz

A significant part of my ministry and the ministry of all who serve god’s people is to those who are sick & dying.
But our time as ministers is limited.
Some congregations provide bereavement ministries where widows & widowers can gather to find
support. They can work through their stages of grief, learn to cope with their loss, and grow spiritually
and emotionally. Congregations that can provide this ministry are truly blessed.
Thirty-five years ago I found myself often conducting two or three funerals a week. Bereavement
ministry groups had not yet come into existence....or were very rare. So I asked 28 widows & widowers
to write the life story of their marriage, about the death of their spouse, and the grief process they
went through.
I then took those 28 life histories and combined them into four characters – two men & two women,
two whose spouses had sudden deaths, two who had lingering deaths. Two had strong marriages, two
struggled in their marriages.
As they told their stories, key emotional and spiritual insights were shared - ones that were common
to all or most of the 28 stories. These common spiritual moments and insights would be the ones
that the participants in the Joyful Again! weekends would see on video, write about privately and then discuss in small groups.
Journaling is important. Getting in touch with one’s feelings is essential to resolving grief and guilt.
Once these feelings are written down, they can serve as markers to gauge progress in the present as well as the future. Everyone has a grieving story to tell. But feelings drive the story.
The sharing in the small group greatly helps the healing. The non-widowed have a hard time understanding. Everyone in the small group has been widowed. Everyone in the small group Is at a different place in their grieving.
Joyful Again! Is peer ministry. Everyone is listened to and helped at whatever emotional place they are at. A healing begins to happen.
For over 30 years hundreds of Joyful Again! weekends have been held throughout the Chicagoland area and around the country. Over 10,000 widowers and widows have attended.
In Luke, Chapter 7, we see Jesus who is moved to great compassion for the widow of Naim.
Death and the loss of a spouse does not wear a particular label.
Joyful Again! is here for your family of believers. Joyful Again! is here to assist widows, widowers, and ministers, not to take the place of existing bereavement groups. Many people come to Joyful Again! who participate in other grief support or bereavement groups.
What I have heard from participants deeply touches my heart:
“After years of searching, I finally found a group of people who knew and could feel what I was going through.”
“The weekend was a miracle – I began to live again!”
“My kids and grandkids say I’m not the same person after the weekend. I’m alive. They want me to go again!”
I could go on and on with comments like those. I have yet to find a participant after all these years, who didn’t find something very special on a Joyful Again! weekend.